The Elusive Double Wave
I thoroughly recommend seeking the elusive double wave! 👋👋
You know that thing when driving when you flash your lights or use your hands to signal to someone that they can pull out in front of you?
I've noticed that about 5% of the time the person doesn't acknowledge the gesture - no problem, I'm not going to let that bother me, who knows what's going on for them. About 90% of the time they wave once - great! Very occasionally, there's the *double wave*. That is, they wave before pulling out, and then after pulling out they wave AGAIN!
Ahhh the satisfaction!
This makes driving so much fun! There's an extra bonus that as the traffic gets worse, there are more opportunities to be kind to fellow drivers and increase the chances of a double wave. It’s a great way to turn a potentially negative experience (being stuck in traffic) into a positive one.
It's a kind of gamification. Us humans LOVE playing games! By playing this game I end up inviting more drivers to pull out in front of me. The dopamine hits from the single or double waves reinforce the behaviour and I am more likely to remember to do this kind act in the future.
There’s an important distinction to make here. I’m not doing it with an expectation of receiving something in return. I enjoy being kind regardless of the response - even no wave at all. This is pure giving, not giving with conditions or expectations. For instance, I’m not expecting it to lead to more people inviting ME to pull out.
The net effect is increased good feelings all round. Kindness is NOT a zero sum game. Imagine a global kindness gauge, and how it notches up a little each time we perform an act of pure giving.
I haven’t had a double wave in a while. And I have no loss of enthusiasm in seeking them! In fact, the longer the “dry spell”, the MORE keen I am to get one!
Where can you apply this in your world? What can you gamify to help you make the world a better place? What global gauge do you want to notch up each day?
I encourage you to play the "double wave" game. And as you do, consider where else can you apply this in your world? What can you gamify to help you make the world a better place? What global gauge do you want to notch up each day?
And if you get a double wave, tell us in the comments. I'd love to hear!
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